The Family: The Good, The Bad, The Ugly

The relationship with my parents has been a rollercoaster of confusion mixed in with hidden aggression and a lot of unspoken subjects. I feel that both of my parents do not know or were ever thought how to communicate with other human beings especially their kids. My mom has always been there for all of us but when it comes to being there emotionally she hasn’t. She has not been supportive of anything I have done or accomplished in my life and neither has my father. They do not live busy lives so they have no excuse. You would think after 4 kids they would learn how to be better parents. Do not get me wrong I love them to death but half the crap they do just doesn’t make sense to me. They are not belligerent nor do they beat us with metal poles they are just not fully there. My father, I think, hates my guts he just doesn’t say it to my face. We barely talk nor acknowledge each other’s presence and we live in the same house. He does not like the way I live my life for obvious reasons but, doesn't even try to sit down with me and discuss our issues face to face. I still feel he detests my lifestyle and that is something he is just going to have to get over. I firmly believe there is room for improvement. Neither of them were there while I was growing up. I mean they were there but were not involved in my athletic, academic, or social life. Some people may call that a blessing but, I call that a load of s***. People say when one becomes a parent they turn into what their parents were like. I do not believe that. If and when I have kids they will get my 100% support in whatever they do. I feel like if my parents saw or were willing to see who I am it might help them better understand who I am and what they have been missing out on all these years as well as allow them to better accept who I am regardless of what I do.

I have three brothers all of which are unique in everyway the oldest has made an amazing life for himself and has always been the one to support me in the random desicions I make from day to day. The one following him is 23 and a complete and mess. I think every family has one of these....you know the "bad boy" who lives the most carefree life on earth. I think him and I get along the best out of all my brothers because we are closest in age and know the same people and can relate in so much more than just being a part of the same family. He was the only one that accepted me for who I was from the start and hasn't deviated from that at all. He cares for his family just doesn't seem to care so much about himself and his future. The younger one is just there. He is I think 16? I havent shared enough with him to have an input nor do I think I will ever. He is more likely to end up in a mental hospital than doing anything productive with his life. I think he recently got hired to flip burgers at the local Mcdonalds

Overall my family has come a long way. We went from the projects of Northern New Jersey to a even bigger dumpster in Southie Boston to making a complete turn around when we moved to the South in Georgia. It was a change that took a lot of getting used to but, I think it gave our family a chance to grow and prosper not only with the world but with eachother. At this very day we are at a stand still I think its because we are all older my parents are finally beginning to realize that all of us are getting older and soon will detatch from their hips and begin creating our own families.

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