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Alright, here we go. As a person, I have always been a paradox at least in my own eyes. It seems as if at times, the best aspects of a person can either trigger or become the worst factors as well. This may get confusing but if taken in properly, which is not a very difficult task to any individual with common sense, it can be fairly obvious and easy to understand. However, just like the rest of life, it is not a hand me out. In order to understand anything fully,one must absorb the information or what ever it is that is given to them fully. So, I'll start spraying them out and explaining them in better detail. I believe that I have many great qualities but there is one that I really think stands out more then the others despite how imperative each and every single one of my "gifts" if you will are to me. That glorious attribute of mine happens to be open mindedness. I'll try to explain my type of open mindedness first before I elaborate. I see that in order to be able to grow as a person and be successful in what you do through out life, you must be open minded. I am that type of person who is willing to try and learn and understand a matter even if I oppose it. I try to suck in what ever I can when I can for different reasons. Some are even selfish. Who doesn't wish to accumulate information that can help them down the line? Who doesn't want to be more aware of their surroundings? The only way that can be accomplished is by parting the sea that is your ideals in order to allow something else, something that you may have never seen before in.I am not open minded so I can seem nice and accepting to others. I am more open minded in order to understand people better and in return understand myself better.Open mindedness leads to wisdom and wisdom is something I wish to become a champion of. I have learned to be open minded at a very young age and that is probably mostly credited to my difficult childhood. As someone who was never fully accepted due to my physical features and incessantly unbalanced economic categorization, I matured much faster then a normal child is suppose to.I basically did not enjoy my childhood.I have also moved a total of 7 times across 3 different continents.I had to grasp factors of life at a much younger age. When you are of mixed ethnic background, especially my bizarre mix(North African,Arabic,and Turkish) you tend to face things in your path that can completely destroy you, damage you as a person, or even make you stronger. The fact that I could never fit in with my classmates in Egypt because I was too light skinned and had red hair did damage me as a person. The struggle of being not accepted by most peers in America also influenced my way of thought.I was never dark enough, I was never light enough. I wasn't black and I wasn't white. Basically, due to no one around me looking at me or listening to me with an open mind, caused me to have one myself. I understand the pain of every single category of humanity. My family has been poor and on well-fare, and it has been financially strong and safe. I have befriended white people, black people, Arabs, Asians, Christians, Muslims, Jews and what ever else you wish to think of since I myself have never fully been in one category. I am able to use my open mindedness to assimilate and adapt better to my surroundings. This has always been one of my strongest weapons since it is almost instinctive for me to do so in order to "survive" or keep my life in motion. Another trait that goes hand in hand with the first one is an obvious one, being friendly. If I truly have an open mind when interacting with another human being, I am unable to help myself from feeling sympathetic and relating to that other person. I can also credit that to me working at a very young age. I had to work when I was around the age of 13 in order to help my father make the money needed to keep our family of six in good condition. My experiences of working with different businesses has helped me if not forced me to be respectful in order to receive respect. Working in sales can be very tough for some people but a breeze for others, and I happen to be one of those others. In fact, my name in English means heart and it is ironic that it truly does take alot for me to dislike and/or hate someone so when I would act friendly and happy to a customer I truly was happy and excited. I have always been very emotional and I'm known to cry from movies...Sad, I know..So, me being emotional has helped me open myself up to people and them opening right back up to me. I just wish to get along with others and be able to enjoy my life. A very strong piece of the puzzle that is Fouad is wanting to excel to a much higher level. I have always wanted to get past that ordinary scale that a person uses to make decisions in their life. From the days of my early childhood, I wanted to be famous. I wanted to live the life that only a select few out of the billions of people that have ever lived and will live experience. Being a dreamer however, can inflect more harm then good if one does not have other tools then just dreaming in order to reach that dream, and in comes my next attribute. I have been known to be a very fast if not rapid learner. If I find something that interests me, I devour it. It kills me not to chase it and try to become something like a scholar in that certain field of interest. Examples of this would be acting and entertaining. From the first days of me learning speech, I would sit in front of the TV and try to impersonate anything I saw on the screen. I would shift my voice and my facial expressions to imitate and project what I see.From commercials, to animals, to movies and TV shows, I just kept playing with my voice and face as if clay to mold. It was just a game to me and I was unaware that even as a kid I was creating and perfecting a skill. I eventually became capable of changing my voice so well, that I was put into theater in school.I have even done some comedy shows. It seems eerie but my diverse background had also pushed me into always acting differently around different people which most people can and will do. The only thing is, I could do it at a much more superior level and I could pull it off much better. Being able to portray someone else or creating my own personae has become a lust of mine. I am a person who gets bored easily and so I try to keep myself entertained at times even to this day. I also love to entertain others around me.I like to laugh and see smiles around me because it gives me security and it gives me that feeling of belonging.It makes me feel like I am accomplishing something and all around me they respect it, love it, acknowledge it, and praise it. I would much rather have people love me instead of hate me..wouldn't you? I have always loved attention. As a younger child, I would receive attention from the other kids because of my appearance mostly, and most of it would be negative. It would be either misunderstanding, jealousy,confusion,etc, but the thing is I had gotten use to the attention. When I came to America and began to enter the next stage of my life that is teen-hood, I knew I had to try and shift the attention from negative to positive. I started to be the class clown. Hey! I had the hair for it right?? I became the constant talker and joker of any school I attended. I became an addict to reactions positive or negative(but mostly positive), just as long as I was in some one's head I would feel happy. This is so in-part to me having always wanted to be famous. I believe that when you die and leave the earth forever, the only thing left of you is the memories that you have left behind. Money comes and goes but fame is forever. I wanted and still want to be immortal. The one thing I fear more then death is being forgotten. Seeing life as a journey to enjoy is something that I have put at the forefront of my beliefs. I had seen so much struggles as a child that I do not want the problems of life to continue to haunt me through out. With that said, I am usually an easy going person that tries not to let things get to him. Let me emphasize that I try. Another important part of me is my poetic side. As young as 9 I began to write different things. From fictional stories to my everyday life I enjoyed writing. This of course led me to writing poetry just as many kids do at the stage of their lives where they try to be artistic. I have always loved rap music because I see it as the purist form of music that there is. Anything can be used as a beat and the words of a language can be used in ways that no other genre of music can even try to parallel. As a 15 year old, I tried to start rapping but I was afraid and I was uncertain of myself so I pushed that part of me back. I would write raps in class but only laugh at them later or throw them away. Eventually when I matured, that goal of mine to become a rapper began to resurface. A met a friend of mine who has in fact made an album and sold it in his hometown of Houston and he eventually got me to start free-styling with him. I wasn't too good at it and I would even rap in a different voice in order to make it all seem like a joke. Slowly,but surely I let loose and began to freestyle much better and it led to me starting to write incredibly better flows. I was even offered to record some songs and I began to do so. The goal of wanting to become a rapper had been awakened and to me, it is a very strong possibility that I can become a successful rapper. Another thing that seems to bewilder people around me is that I am much smarted then I look. My grandfather is a historic and political writer, and so was my father and half of his siblings. I love to learn and to be more specific, I love to learn about history, religion and different cultures. Although I love sports like football and soccer, I love the history channel and the discovery channel just as much. Say what? That's right, and I even spends hours reading about history and religion in the middle of the night since I am somewhat of an insomniac. I may not be the smartest person in the world, but I try to be extremely educated in many fields, related or unrelated. An educated person is a respected person, that is a saying that my father has drilled into my brain. I may have left something out here and there but overall that is an overview of my positives. However, I am a firm believer in opportunity cost. Where ever there is a positive, there is always a negative, when ever you gain something, you have lost something so here we go boys and girls. I try to be very understanding and open minded, but there are some types of ignorance that I simply can not stand. Racism is one of them due to having faced it from every single racial group myself. My anger towards things such as greed, betrayal, and manipulation is a weakness in my eyes because sadly it is a powerful part of life on this earth in this day and age. I tend to be too much of a good person for my own good and people seem to take that to their advantage. Being different in so many ways is a gift, but it is also a curse. My open mindedness is sometimes abused by others and that leads me to becoming very angry. Despite being very friendly, I do have a temper. It is very difficult for me to forgive or forget a wrongful act done to me because I try my best to live by the golden rule and one of the main headlines in my spirituality, "Do unto others, as you would want done to you." Trusting someone too much is a bad trait of mine and it always lead to my other weakness of letting things get to me easily.People's opinions of me hold alot of water. I can become great friends with someone in my first encounter with them because I open up quickly and I guess I allow too much to leak out. My father calls me an idiot for having this habit of letting my guard down around anyone that flashes me a smile and opens up to me. I think that by relating to them in any way shape or form I can build a bridge to truly connect with that person. In the past couple of years I have learned alot about people as a whole and how my personality type is not only a rarity but a victim that is preyed upon by the majority that do seem to see life as a jungle in which they must use others to benefit themselves and never allow someone to gain in anyway shape or form from them without them receiving something in return. After my anger and gullibility, I'd say that my big mouth is something that I have yet to learn to control and I doubt I even wish to control. I see being blunt as a virtue because there is nothing more constructive and real then being blunt. The world is not very kind to people who speak before or while they think a.k.a speak with their heart.A heart is a very beautiful thing, the brain is calculating and can be conniving. I let my feelings and emotions out without any hesitation because to me it is almost cowardly and evil to hold them in and do other wise. Many of the people I have known through out my life have always told me that my mouth is my biggest weakness. I hate secrets and I hate tricks. I also hate change because I see changing as something that is done most of the time in order to please others. Therefore, I encounter personal altercations for it all the time because quiet honestly I understand that change is necessary around others in order to climb the ladder of society,but completely turning 360 on some values is something I can not do. With all that in mind, I still continue to be myself and avoid changing unless my open mindedness leads me to accepting that the change is necessary. There are times when I have realized things a little too late and I do torture myself internally about it. Self pity is not something I love to indulge in but I am faced with the reality of having to continuously trip over my mistakes and at other times, others' mistakes sense I can be insecure when faced with different trials. As a whole, I see myself mostly through my eyes, and partially through others' view since I do wish to understand it all in the chess game that everyone is playing simultaneously. I think that I am a good person with a good heart and great ambitions. I also know that I have the capabilities to achieve what I wish to achieve but the people around me keep deceiving my train of thought on life when looked at as a full picture.Maybe I should not allow them, but I am not someone who enjoys taking risks with no idea at all of what the results could be. The greatest attribute Fouad poses is being himself and playing the role that he believes he must, but at the same time, being himself is the greatest weakness as well since no one on this planet is exactly the same and there will always be internal and external conflict through out the different portions of life such as business, love, honor and all the other components of a person's adventure in this world. The key to this impossible mystery lies in happiness and coming to terms with the different scenarios and situations in life. I just need to solve the puzzle using what I have in order to finally see if I am mistaken and my faults overshadow everything else which leads to failure or if I have been right all along. Wisdom is my eternal goal and doubt is my wicked enemy. Holla!

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